For those of you who have seen me recently, you know I’m going back to my roots. Hair roots, that is. Back to my natural color, which big surprise, is not blonde. That fact was confirmed for me a few weeks ago when I ran into an old friend who also happens to be an older friend. She commented on the change in my hair color, to which I lamented, “Yeah, it’s no longer blonde.” She didn’t even pause before responding, “Well, it’s kind of a dishwater blonde.” Yep. Feeling more beautiful by the minute.
Of course, dishwater hair is not my only problem. I’m also dealing with dishrag hair.
Not my own, but Lula’s.
Now before you think I’ve taken to dying Lula’s hair, too, I haven’t. But, Brad has taken to DRYING her hair. With The. Dishrag. From. My. Sink. I’m going to diagnose it as rain-induced insanity because I have no clue otherwise what might have prompted him to do such a thing. I was grateful he casually mentioned that small tidbit to me since he left said dishrag lying on the kitchen counter and I would’ve likely assumed it was clean. I cannot deal.
But dishrag hair got me to thinking.
Assumptions are dangerous. Duh, you’re thinking, but hold on two seconds. Yes, we already know that, but it’s probably worth being reminded of because our assumptions don’t just expose our thinking. They expose our hearts.
What I assume about you speaks a great deal more loudly about me.
My assumptions don’t just reveal my thoughts. They reveal my heart.
I’ve had some painful relationship challenges in the last two years, and assumptions led me to stinkin’ thinking and heartache more than a time or two or five. Thankfully, heartache always has a way of leading me to God, and one night during my prayer time, God gave me the ABCs:
Accept, don’t expect.
Believe the best.
Choose how you respond.
When I follow these ABCs, it not only changes my assumptions about others,
it changes my heart.
What are your assumptions about others saying about you?
Know Him and make Him known,
“Summing it all up, friends, I’d say you’ll do best
by filling your minds and meditating on things
true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious—
the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse.
Put into practice what you learned from me,
what you heard and saw and realized.
Do that, and God, who makes everything work together,
will work you into his most excellent harmonies.”
Philippians 4:8 MSG